I see examples of this most important principle every day, self determined limitations. I see it in myself, I see it in my clients.
We all listen to our own mental chatter, setting personal achievement limits, boundaries, personal expectations, goals, objectives, when we are solving problems or simply implementing our strategies, in anything we do. We all work up to our own self-perceived limits and expectations. These may be very high but our objectives are all supported by our own vision of what is possible.
If we are fortunate enough to have someone else involved with us in any of these situations, a person who has an outside more objective view, and thus a different opinion unhindered by the limitations we all set upon ourselves, he or she will be able to push us, excite us, and get us to elevate the bar on just about anything we may be involved in merely by having a less hindered view.
The result is we can always do more then we think we can. We can always reach higher and achieve more then we would if allowed to be our own manager.
This is not because we are all lazy, inept, and slackers, always looking for an easy way out, not so and actually quite the opposite is true we, business owners, are for the most part huge overachievers. But there is something magical about someone else saying ” you can achieve more here”…. and therefore we do.
Its not just about pushing higher for no particular reason other then pushing higher, its about the ability of an outside person to see more clearly then you, as we all have our own barriers and establishing a higher vision.
We are all not inept, its simply a natural condition. Frequently others outside the immediate issue can see clearer and challenge our own self implemented limitations.
It also has to do with trust. If we trust the man we are being inspected by and thus believe in his ability to see, then we will accept his vision and replace our own and with the trust extended and do our best to accomplish the higher hurdle. Its like a breakthrough, if we only believe in our own goals, we are limited to it. If someone else sees a different result, it all of a sudden becomes possible and we can expand our vision to the new goal.
Its not just the competitive “I can do better then you”, although this comes from a similar place, a challenge. We have all seen this occur, when we step it up a notch to beat someone else who we are competing with…and magically accomplishing more then if we were competing against ourselves. This is not about a competitive urge to win. Its more about improving or expanding the vision to goals we did not believe we could achieve yet others do believe. We can always adopt a greater standard and thus elevate our own bar with this support.
If someone else believes we can accomplish more… perhaps we can.
In essence we are always limited by our own personal sense of what we can accomplish, however others outside of our head are not limited by what we all think we can accomplish and a person outside of our own self can evaluate the situation with less personal limitation involved and thus raise the bar and bring you along to achieve greater results.
We cannot do our best…on our own, we can achieve more and do our best with the help of others. Get help. Call for help 413-549-2966.
